QUESTIONS ABOUT INTERCOURSE, SEX, EROTICISM - AND LOVE

A WIDE MAN RECENTLY MENTIONED THIS LINE OF REASONING TO ME:

IF SEX IS FOR PROCREATION, THEN ISN'T IT A MISNOMER TO CALL HOMO-EROTIC INTERCOURSE SEX?

DOESN'T IT ONLY SIMULATE ACTUAL SEX?

THEREFORE, ISN'T THE TERM "HOMOSEXUALITY" ENTIRELY INACCURATE AND DOESN'T USING IT PERPETUATE A DELUSION?

AFTER ALL, IT IS POSSIBLE FOR INDIVIDUALS TO BE EROTICALLY STIMULATED BY INANIMATE OBJECTS - SUCH AS SHOES, OR VIOLENCE, AND EVEN BESTIALITY.

SINCE THESE EROTIC ACTS CANNOT LEAD TO PROCREATION AND ARE NOT IN ANY WAY REPRODUCTIVE - AND SINCE THE TWO SEXES EXIST FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROCREATING - THESE ACTS DON'T SEEM TO BE ACTUALLY SEXUAL. 

SEXUAL REPRODUCTION IS NOT THE ONLY WAY ALL LIVING ORGANISMS REPRODUCE, BUT IT IS THE WAY HUMANS REPRODUCE.

STIMULATION THE BRAIN'S EROTIC CENTERS ISN'T NECESSARILY SEXUAL.

LOOK AT IT THIS WAY: 

IF A MAD SCIENTIST IMPLANTED ELECTRODES INTO A THE EROTIC CENTER OF A PATIENT'S BRAIN AND STIMULATED IT, WOULD HE BE HAVING SEX WITH THE PATIENT?

I THINK NOT.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

I DON'T THINK THIS IS MERELY A MATTER OF SEMANTICS.

AS PRESIDENT OBAMA HAS SAID, WORDS MATTER. WORDS COUNT. WORDS HAVE CONSEQUENCES.

CONFERRING HOMO-EROTIC ACTS WHICH SIMULATE SEX THE STATUS OF SEX - BASED ON THE FACT THAT THE ACT LEADS TO ORGASM - MAY VERY WELL BE A ROOT CAUSE OF OUR SOCIETY'S CURRENT DILEMMA REGARDING "GAY MARRIAGE".

IT MAY VERY WELL BE THAT THOSE WHO WANT HOMO-ORIENTED PEOPLE TO BE ABLE TO MARRY SEE HOMO-EROTIC ACTS - (WITHIN A STABLE, LEGALLY RECOGNIZED RELATIONSHIP FORMALIZED BY A GOVERNMENT LICENSE) - AS EQUAL TO SEXUAL ACTS BY MARRIED PEOPLE AND THEY THINK IT'S UNFAIR THAT THE GOVERNMENT "DISCRIMINATES" AGAINST ONE AND VALIDATES THE OTHER.

I THINK THAT MOST PEOPLE WHO OPPOSE "GAY MARRIAGE" ARE COMFORTABLE WITH GAY UNIONS WHICH ARE EQUIVALENT TO MARRIAGE IN MOST REGARDS - BUT NOT WITH REGARD TO ADOPTION.

SO IT'S NOT ABOUT PREVENTING GAYS FROM BEING ABLE TO LIVE OPENLY OR FROM BEING ABLE TO SHARE IN OWNERSHIP OF MATERIAL PROPERTY, ETC.

I THINK IT DOESN'T HAVE TO DO WITH "LOVE".

WE CAN ALL LOVE EACH OTHER.

I THINK IT MIGHT VERY WELL BE ROOTED IN WHAT WE THINK SEX REALLY IS.